Beliefs are unconscious and a powerful influence on your behavior and your life without you noticing. For example:
“I think I can do five consecutive stages of the Camino de Santiago if I prepare with time”
That belief creates in you the idea of the possibility of getting it and you start preparing. Finally you do it and get as a result the success in doing the five stages. What do you think would have happened if the belief had been this other?:
“I don’t think I can do five stages in a row”
In the first case it is an enabling belief that helps us achieve our goals. In the second case it is a limiting belief that prevents us from achieving them. Limiting beliefs negatively impact our self-esteem. For example:
“It’s very difficult, I ‘ll never be able to do it”
How do you think this thought will influence your self-esteem?
There are many beliefs, of many types, but perhaps the beliefs related to perfectionism are the most destructive. Being perfect is impossible and even if you manage to do things right, it’s never enough, you always have a feeling of failure. We know that it is difficult to overcome this belief, but consider changing your thoughts to others of this type:
“I will make an effort to do my best, and if I am wrong I know that it is normal and I will learn from my mistakes”..
It’s difficult, but it’s possible. Think that beliefs are not innate, we are acquiring them throughout our lives. Its origin can be cultural, religious, family or experiential, but as they are acquired, they can also be modified.
Our goal is to change irrational, maladaptive and limiting beliefs for others that are rational, adaptive and enabling. This is a task that requires time and effort.
Modify your limiting beliefs in 4 steps. Think of some aspect of your life where you believe a belief is having a negative influence and apply the steps below.
To help you, we’ve created an example. When asked to do a 5-day trekking route, the answer would be: “It’s very difficult, I’ll never be able to do it”.