Psychological Abuse Test

Usually your partner:

1.- Choose the answer that best suits your situation:*

He/she values what you do, how you are, makes you feel that you are a competent and valuable person when you are in public.
Intermediate option.
He/she devalues what you do, how you are, it makes you feel like you are an incompetent and unworthy person when you are in public.

2.- Choose the answer that best suits your situation:*

She/he values what you do, how you are, makes you feel that you are a competent and valuable person when you are in private.
Intermediate option.
She/he devalues what you do, what you are like, it makes you feel like you are an incompetent and worthless person when you are in private.

3.- Choose the answer that best suits your situation:*

She/he always speaks to you with respect both in private and in public, making you feel valued.
Intermediate option.
Sometimes she/he talks to you with contempt both in private and in public, making you feel humiliated.

4.- Choose the answer that best suits your situation:*

He/she encourages you to take new initiatives (go to the gym, study what you like…), it makes you feel like you’re going to get what you want.
Intermediate option.
Faced with your new initiatives (going to the gym, studying what you like…) it makes you feel that you’re not going to make it, that you’re not going to be able to do it well.

5.- Choose the answer that best suits your situation:*

He/she values your work as much as his/her.
Intermediate option.
He/she doesn’t value your work as much as his/her.

6.- Choose the answer that best suits your situation:*

He/she values and respects your ideas even if they do not coincide with his/her own.
Intermediate option.
He/she does not value or respect your ideas, trying to modify them.

7.- Choose the answer that best suits your situation:*

When you disagree you say what you think, your opinion is valued and respected.
Intermediate option.
When you disagree, you feel that you can’t express your opinion for fear of getting angry, yelling at you, or making hurtful comments.

8.- Choose the answer that best suits your situation:*

In conflicts or discussions treats you with respect.
Intermediate option.
In conflicts or discussions get you to give in and sometimes humiliate yourself and accept their decision.

9.- Choose the answer that best suits your situation:*

When couple problems arise, both of you assume your share of responsibility or guilt.
Intermediate option.
When couple problems arise, manipulate situations to make you believe that they are always your fault.

10.- Choose the answer that best suits your situation:*

You make the important decisions between the two of you.
Intermediate option.
Your partner always makes the important decisions.

11.- Choose the answer that best suits your situation:*

You feel that neither has “the power” and control over the life of the other and/or over the relationship.
Intermediate option.
You feel that your partner has “power” and control over your life and relationship, and if you want to keep it, you must take it.

12.- Choose the answer that best suits your situation:*

In moments of intimacy you both decide and do what you like and feel like.
Intermediate option.
You feel compelled to have intimate relationships at times when you don’t feel like it, because it gets angry if you don’t accept.

13.- Choose the answer that best suits your situation:*

You share the domestic and family responsibilities in a balanced way in time and dedication.
Intermediate option.
You always have to take on more domestic and family responsibilities because he/she doesn’t assume his/her part.

14.- Choose the answer that best suits your situation:*

Neither should give up their interests by accepting the interests of the other for the sake of the relationship.
Intermediate option.
Your partner keeps doing what he/she likes and you, little by little, stop doing what you want for the sake of the relationship.

15.- Choose the answer that best suits your situation:*

He/she is glad that you have good, trustworthy, close friends, because it is good for you.
Intermediate option.
He/she tries veiledly or explicitly to stop you from relating to your close friends as they may influence him/her to lose control over you.

16.- Choose the answer that best suits your situation:*

He/she encourages you to continue relating to your previous friends and to have friends outside of the couple’s group of friends.
Intermediate option.
You have stopped meeting with your previous friends and friends outside the couple’s group of friends because you feel he/she is upset and you fear their reaction.

17.- Choose the answer that best suits your situation:*

He/she thinks that your relationships on social networks, telephone, … are private and would never think of controlling them or asking you for passwords.
Intermediate option.
He/she wants to know at all times who you are talking to and what you are talking about on social networks, telephone… He/she thinks that you should tell him/her your passwords as proof that you are not hiding anything from him/her.

18.- Choose the answer that best suits your situation:*

He/she respects your relationship with your parents or siblings, they are your family, and they are important people to you.
Intermediate option.
He/she often talks badly about your family, try to convince you that your parents or siblings are the cause of your problems.

19.- Choose the answer that best suits your situation:*

He/she would never ask you to stay away from your family or to choose between your family and your relationship.
Intermediate option.
Sometimes she/he tries to keep you away from your family whom she/he blames for your problems or forces you to choose between your family and your relationship.

20.- Choose the answer that best suits your situation:*

Your family thinks that in general your partner loves you and makes you happy.
Intermediate option.
Your family members think she/he’s manipulating you and/or not treating you well.

21.- Choose the answer that best suits your situation:*

Your friends value positively how your partner treats you.
Intermediate option.
Some friendships have warned you that your partner does not treat you with respect or dignity.

22.- Choose the answer that best suits your situation:*

No one close to you has told you that they are manipulating you or that you may be suffering psychological abuse.
Intermediate option.
Someone close to you has told you that he/she is manipulating you or that you may be suffering psychological abuse.

23.- Choose the answer that best suits your situation:*

He/she has never manipulated or mistreated you psychologically.
Intermediate option.
Have you ever felt that he/she has manipulated or mistreated you psychologically, but tells you that it is for the good of the relationship.

24.- Choose the answer that best suits your situation:*

You feel secure in the relationship, it is stable and healthy and you have no fear whatsoever that because of your personal differences he/she may abandon you.
Intermediate option.
You feel that if you do not accept his decisions / wishes he/she will abandon you and you feel panic at that possibility.

25.- Choose the answer that best suits your situation:*

He/she never threatens to leave you or abandon you.
Intermediate option.
He/she threatens to leave you or forsake you if you do not comply with their decisions / wishes.

IMPORTANT: Your results will be displayed on your device screen. If you want to keep them you must print them out (on paper or saving as a pdf) or take a photo of them. We do not keep a copy of your results.

Psychological Abuse Test

How is your relationship?

Usually your partner:

IMPORTANT: Your results will be displayed on your device screen. If you want to keep them you must print them out (on paper or saving as a pdf) or take a photo of them. We do not keep a copy of your results.